31 August 2006
Once upon a time, many years ago, there was a bright young woman with a bright future ahead of her. She was a student soon to complete her studies and embark on a glittering career, and her life was full of promise.
But despite all this, the young girl was sad. Worse than sad, if the truth be told, because the break up of what she thought was a match made in heaven had knocked her sideways and she was struggling just to get through each day. She would make it into classes as and when, and in between she survived on TV and ready meals. Exams loomed, and they worried her, but she didn’t really seem able to get excited about them. It was not a pretty picture.
She wasn’t stupid. She did know that her body felt different. She did notice that her periods seemed not to come. She blanked it out, and put it down – wishful thinking, this – to the stresses of her life. Exams. The split. Friendlessness. The sadness.
But then, the exams were over and, back at the family home for the summer, reality had to be faced. She did the test. The Test. It was positive. A parting shot from that match made in heaven.
Now what the hell do I do?
The NHS doctor said – you’ve left it too late. A friend said – go private. The private hospital said – this is the price, when do you want your appointment?
The operation. Waking up groggy, relieved. A scan – the alien is still there. A few days later, a trip to the hospital, some drug or other. The next day, admitted into hospital. The same drug, I think, or maybe a different one. Twice. The alien is tenacious.
Contractions, although I didn’t know it at the time, because what they had done was to induce an early labour, I think. I didn’t really understand. At the time, just pain, cramps. They offered me pain relief, eventually they gave me something that worked a bit, for a while. Then, at long last, the weird slippery rush of a flushed alien. Later, I would know that it was the same slippery rush of a normal, full term birth. But this one, of course, was different.
The rest – the placenta and all, I suppose – stayed put. Another operation. I remember being woken for the trip to theatre. I remember the anaesthetist, cheerfully competent in the middle of the night, coming to me after an emergency somewhere else. I remember the relief of waking up to find that it was finished. Really finished this time.
Was it bad? Pretty bad, I think. Regrets? None.
I’m sorry, Mum, if you’re reading this, that I never told you before.
31 August 2006
Well, my blogging break is just about over now.
I’ve been having a fabulous time, as has Baby M, without you. Hope you didn’t miss us too much.
Here are a few of the things that Baby M has been doing:
- Sliding down the big slide at the park.
- Running after ducks.
- Visiting a new baby.
- Getting to know Nana and Grandad (er, usually aka “Nana” but two or three times “Ganda“)
- Swinging high enough to touch the sky.
- Running away from thunderstorms.
- Sleeping nearly all the way through the night!
- Paddling in the sea.
- Building sandcastles.
- Cutting a new tooth (18 down, 2 to go).
- Eating phenomenal amounts of food.
- Learning new signs and new words.
- Picking blackberries, and getting very purple.
- Saying NO!
- Giving her mummy sweet little kisses
In the last few weeks my little girl has come on in leaps and bounds, and has taken in so much with so little difficulty.
Yesterday on the way home from the airport she called “nana, nana, nana” and signed busily “Nana, Grandad, Nana, Grandad”. After I had explained for the gazillionth time that Nana and Grandad had gone home but that we will see them again quite soon, she said “Nana” very sadly, and then signed: “Nana, Gone, Grandad, Gone.”
Back to normal today, back to work, back to nursery. I missed her so.
(So did the milk factory: I was seriously boobalicious by the time I got her home, and we had a lovely, long milky cuddle together. Aww.)
29 August 2006
Thank Clare. I’m going to make this quick if I can!
Meme of three:
1.Things that scare me:
- Losing Baby M in some horriible freak accident.
- Fat, hairy spiders.
2. People who make me laugh:
- Baby M.
- My pseudonymous friend, WG.
- Lenny Henry.
3. Things I hate the most:
4. Things I don’t understand:
- The appeal of cockles, winkles or whelks.
- What Baby M means when she says “Ganana, daba, GAH!”
(Oh, and why this taggy thing is called “Meme of three”.)
5. Things I’m doing right now:
- Writing a blog post, duh.
- Listening out for Baby M, who is stirring.
- Oh, bum. Breastfeeding.
6. Things I want to do before I die:
- Become a grandmother.
- Retire from paid work.
- Become very old indeed.
(Hopefully in that chronological order…)
7. Things I can do:
- Sleep through thunderstorms.
8. Ways to describe my personality:
9. Things I can’t do:
- That yoga posture where you have to practically do the splits and then put your head on one knee, with one hand between your shoulderblades and the other one on the floor by your ankle.
- Lick my elbow. And I bet you can’t either.
10. Things I think you should listen to:
- Gerard Hoffnung’s rendition of The Barrel Story.
- The aforementioned WG, snoring.
- The sound of a waterfall, gentle in the night.
11. Things you should never listen to:
- Anything you are told by adverts.
- Anything you are told by politicians.
- Anything described as “avant garde” or “cutting edge”.
12. Things I’d like to learn:
(I’m going here more for “Things I’d like to know but not necessarily things I want to know passionately enough to put in all the effort of actually learning them.”)
- All about growing fruit and vegetables.
- Doing yoga properly.
13. Favorite foods:
- Chick pea curry.
14. Beverages I drink regularly:
15. Shows I watched as a kid:
- Blue Peter.
- The Raggy Dolls.
16. People I’m tagging to do this meme:
(Cos I’m a Grumpy Moo and I want to put the baby to bed and, and, and… however, if you want to do it and for me to link to it then just ask – and it shall be granted you.)
24 August 2006
Once upon a time there was a Beautiful Princess and her delightful Prince, who was Charming. One day, the Beautiful Princess and her Charming Prince had a bit of a slip-up of the contraceptive variety, for which they were equally responsible, and – lo! – about three weeks later there came that inevitable, spine-chilling dots-on-a-wee-stick moment.
OK, so the princess was me, and the prince turned out not to be so charming after all, but if I’m going to tell a story I feel I should do it right…
I knew I was pregnant before I even took the pregnancy test. My period wasn’t late, no more than a day or so which wasn’t unusual. But I could feel it in my breasts, a tenderness and a tingling pain, a sense of growth and change. Something different in my body. I knew.
The night before I took the test, I tossed and turned in bed and failed to sleep, wishing I could come to terms with the idea of pregnancy. It was the May bank holiday weekend. A few days before my birthday. I took the test in the morning very early, and confirmed my suspicion. I was horrified. I rang the father. He said “Well, good news!” but he didn’t mean it.
Later, he suggested – no, he urged – abortion. I didn’t want one. I didn’t want a baby, but I didn’t want an abortion either. He resented that it wasn’t his decision, and he pushed me to do it. It tore me up a little. Well, a lot.
It sounds daft but I felt the hand of fate upon me. We’d spun the wheel, taken our chance, diced with destiny, made our bed… and we were stuck with what we’d got. Not our place to change the course of destiny. As though it was somehow meant to be. How many bites at the cherry did I want? And also… again, it sounds daft… I felt already an emotional connection (perhaps it was love, perhaps “only hormones”) to this thing implanted and growing inside me. Just a clump of cells, but a necessary clump. An essential clump. Something irrefutable and un-do-away-with-able. Magical. Mine.
He’d said he would “stand by me”. Now he said he wouldn’t… couldn’t. Ha! I decided I didn’t care. I knew that nobody could bully me one way or the other. Not even my silver-tongued prince, playing the little-boy-lost. If he upped and left, so be it. I’d manage, somehow.
I chose my clump of cells. I chose the little person that it became.
My daughter, chosen.
18 August 2006
Posted by Maia under Personal
Welcome to the world: a new little cousin for Baby M.
15 August 2006
Some guy has a blog. And an idea.
Ten things I would put in Room 101
2. Worldwide corporations.
3. All the people who stand in the way of a ban on the marketing of breastmilk substitutes.
4. Internet trolls.
5. Bob Dylan.
6. People who drive a 4×4 in town.
7. Organised religion.
8. Factory farms.
9. Anybody who is or wants to be in charge of anybody else (let alone anybody who is or wants to be in charge of a whole country-full of people).
Ten things I would put in Room Fluffy
1. Baby M (and all my family, but mainly Baby M).
2. The Big Green Gathering.
3. Breastfeeding support groups.
4. Good, dark chocolate.
5. The internet.
6. Solar power.
8. The smell of lavendar on a warm, sunny day.
9. City farms, and allotments.
10. Cats. They’re just sooooo snooty and cool.
Please note: none of the above items are in any way ordered. They are just in the order that I thought of them, with no ranking intended. OK?
If anyone I know wants to shamelessly pinch this idea, like I did, then post me a link so I can go and be nosey about what you put in your Room 101 / Room Fluffy!
15 August 2006
Posted by Maia under Boobs!
Blackberries. Milk. Need I say more?
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